4 Indicators Of Wrong Soul Ties

Out of the hundreds of video podcasts I’ve recorded, my highest viewed videos on YouTube are on “Breaking Soul Ties”. I receive countless emails, letters and messages from women and men with questions about this intimate topic. They are in wrong relationships, admit that it’s wrong, but cannot seem to move on. Teenagers have crossed the line with various partners and don’t know how to make things right. Old flames have re-kindled an inappropriate secret romance. They grieve in their soul when that person rejects them, moves on to someone else, or God clearly instructs them to end things. To put it mildly, soul ties are powerful.

What are soul ties?
A soul tie is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with someone else. You can become bound to a person through your soul.

Have you found yourself tormented by thoughts about a person, excessively wondering about them, checking on them, rehearsing times with them? If so, you have soul ties. Have you grieved over a severed relationship with someone you were once close to? If so, you have soul ties.

Soul ties are formed through close friendships, through vows, commitments and promises, and through physical intimacy. Not all soul ties are bad. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel. God will strategically bring good relationships into our lives to form healthy soul ties. “When David had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own life” (1 Sam. 18:1 (AMP). In contrast, Satan always brings counterfeits into our lives to form unhealthy soul ties.

A few ways unhealthy soul ties can be formed include:

· Abusive relationships (physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally)
· Adulterous affairs
· Sex before marriage
· Obsessive entanglements with a person (giving them more authority in your life than you give to God)
· Controlling relationships

Four Indicators of Wrong Soul Ties

1. “I feel so confused.”
When you are outside the will of God in a particular relationship, you will experience confusion. Your feelings will tell you one thing; your spirit will tell you another. That’s where the confusion comes in. “God is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Cor. 14:33, KJV). If you are not experiencing peace in this relationship or “soul tie”, then something is not right. That is the Holy Spirit warning you and working to get your attention. You need to respect these warnings. They are not to be brushed off or treated as a small thing. Honor the Holy Spirit’s leading in your life. You should not feel confused if you are in the will of God, and honestly, why would you want to be any other place? When you are confused about a relationship, you can make unwise, regretful decisions. You need to take purposeful steps in feeding your spirit the truth of God’s Word. The truth always overrides deception.

2. “I’m just miserable.”
When we persist in doing something that we know God is not in agreement with, we will experience a type of misery that doesn’t go away. You may feel uneasy inside, extreme anxiety, sorrow or pain. You may feel disgusted by what you’re doing, yet feel powerless to change your situation. Those are all indicators that Satan is at work in your life to destroy it. David cried out in Psalm 38:8, “I am exhausted and completely crushed. My groans come from an anguished heart.” (NLT). If that describes how you feel when you’re alone, I want you to know there is hope. Psalm 23:3 says, “He restores my soul” (NIV). Those four little words will redefine your life. God will restore your mind, your will and your emotions.

3. “My mind is tormented.”
The mind of Christ is one that is at peace no matter what the circumstances. When Satan has invaded our souls through wrong soul ties, our minds will not be at rest. This is where your battle takes place. Is your mind constantly replaying images of the past and rehearsing previous conversations like a broken record? Do your thoughts produce fear or make you feel unclean? Whatever is going on in your mind is affecting your emotional state. Your feelings are indicators of what you are thinking about. Second Corinthians 10:5 says that we are to renew our minds by taking “captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (NIV). I will be the first to admit that this is not easy, but it is necessary. You can do this. As a Christian you can get your thoughts under the control of your reborn spirit. How? By speaking God’s Word out of your mouth every single time a negative thought enters your mind. Don’t just think it, speak it. It can be as simple as saying: “Thank You, Lord, that you restore my soul”… over and over and over. Be persistent. There’s nothing Satan hates more than to hear you speak the Word of God and the name of Jesus out of your mouth!

4. “I didn’t mean to disobey God…on purpose.”
If you feel like you have been dealing with a situation for far too long and nothing seems to help you get beyond it, remember this phrase: God will not advance your instructions beyond your last act of disobedience. If you don’t fully obey what God is telling you to do, you will never move beyond your current circumstances. I don’t know what that means to you, but I know what it meant for me years ago. I was desperate to move beyond my circumstances no matter how painful it would be.

Why would we disobey God?

· We doubt our ability to hear from God.
· It hurts too badly.
· It’s uncomfortable.
· It’s not what our flesh “wants” to do.
· We say that we are waiting for God to change us.
· We are waiting for God to change someone else.

Rather than simply obey God, I believe we try to find answers that won’t be uncomfortable. We wait for an easier way, but we stay miserable inside. What is God telling you to do? Be honest with yourself right now. If God was standing in front of you right now, what do you believe He would instruct you to do in your situation? Don’t go another day, month, or year struggling—obey God’s instructions. Remember, partial obedience is still disobedience. Delayed obedience is still disobedience. Do what God is telling you to do knowing ahead of time that it’s always for your benefit. God is not trying to hurt you. He’s trying to help you. He sees what you don’t see. You will never regret obeying God. Never. Your life isn’t over because a relationship is. God wants you to let go of the past and get on a pursuit. He has big dreams for your life.

  1. Anne-Laure

    Great message! I have been going through your Youtube channel and read your books. Thank you so much for what youdo! May the Lord bless your ministry and keep you and your family! :) And, I am from France! ;)

  2. Myrna

    Your so right, I lived in an abused relationship, I always said,” nothing made sense” until we separated,then people he grew up with told me about his past,, he made it look like I was the abuser and he set me up to make his lies look true He plays people against each other to keep them apart so we don’t figure it all out. and he shows no emotion from hurting others except a grin of satisfaction. The more he dished out the stronger my faith became and I know I am here because of God, as my life was threatened three different times by this man who is suppose to love. you. I feel every lady needs to know the difference between a PRINCE and a FROG. A Prince will validate you, a frog , its all about them, Through all this he has turned my Children against me, knowing that would hurt me the most, but in God is Victory, always stay close to HIm.

  3. Armstrong Morgann

    May God bless ya all real good for sharing this words. Am in Nigeria.

  4. S. Jones

    I thank God for your ministry. You spoke the sentiments of my heart. You touched on just about everything I was experiencing. I knew about tieing of the soul but only in the event of having sex so therefore I stayed clear of having sex. I didn’t know that I could experience soul ties through friendships.Thank you for the information.

  5. deborahmiller

    This was very much to the point. I would like more resource concerning this topic thank u for your beautiful ministry and wisdom Shalom deborah

  6. niles w.

    He leads beside the still waters, He restores my soul ! Amen

  7. Dan

    Wow, This explains so much in my life it’s remarkable.

  8. dawn

    This has been an ongoing struggle in my life for 25+ years with someone. Satan has tried to destroy me through this relationship. Two things that really got my attention were the misery I have felt in my spirit, especially when I am alone. Also my desperation to move beyond my current circumstances and how obedience is required in order for that to happen. Thank you for bringing these things to light and for confirming what I know I must do……blessings!

  9. JB

    This was the most helpful information that I found on the web! May God bless you in your works .

  10. KNG

    A great teaching in any season! The world needs to hear & understand this!!! This has helped me to heal! Thanks!!! May God continue to keep & bless you!!

  11. C.S

    Right at this moment I am struggling with soul-ties. I think I have been here before so many times; however this time seems very different to the others. I know the answer is to draw closer to my maker and master Yahweh.Thank you for sharing. It is always good to be reminded of this…
    Mauri Ora!

  12. Jane

    God Bless you for these encouraging words!

  13. zo

    close frienships severed, a grieving soul, these things have weighed me down for many years.
    i prayed like you said, the Lord will restore my soul.

  14. Sherry

    I need help my husband doesn’t understand that he has gotten himself in an unhealthy soul tie. They did not have sex but he was upset when I told him that I didn’t want them to talk anymore. They would spend so much time on the phone too frequently. I gave in I told him that because he felt that they were really just friends and that he felt that God had an assignment and that it would not be complete if he could no longer talk to her. I am still praying against this soul tie to this day.

  15. Princezz

    Absolutely amazing amazing message so touching and so true It’s like God has spoke to me, with your messages you may have just honestly saved my life ( emotionally) glory to God and for your amazing work lots of love Melbourne: Australia :)

  16. Cee

    This message has really helped me a lot.I am overcoming this already,would like to hear more on it.,thank you Pastor.

  17. Dianne Elliott

    I am experiencing a heart break . All the above is me. My Friend shared this website with me. This so were I im ,I will apply it to my life . I need this healing. Please continue to pray for me…

  18. Jeanny

    To speak my heart out life has been hell on earth for me,until I got what it needed on this web site.Soul Ties.I suffered a lot especially since the person I had it with was an occultic practitioner. 4 sure lack of knowledge destroyed me.He would do anything he wanted to do with me with no one to help.God bless you and your ministry.

  19. Laine

    I came across this subject while looking up something else yesterday, I had never heard of soul ties. I’m still blown away because this is exactly what I need. Exactly. I have been plagued by this for about 2 1/2 years. I didn’t know what to do so I would cry out to God to please help me and heal my memories, but I couldn’t completely let go. I was so depressed and even at one point suicidal. This is an amazing message and I am so grateful that God led me to it. Now I can actually look forward to the future and have hope. God bless you !!

  20. Shannon

    I love this! Love the way it’s broken down. So many people know nothing about soul ties and just how serious and painful they can be. I’m definitely sharing this! God bless you!

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  22. Carmen

    Thank you, I did not know what I was experiencing, just could not figure out why I cannot get away from this person. Losing sleep, rehearsing times that we have spent together. This person is married and I know that it is wrong, I have repented and ask god to restore me. Looking forward to being released from this torment. It has already started to ruin my life.

  23. Freedomreigns

    Thank you for sharing truth…very helpful and sound

  24. Karl

    Here it is 3-years later and I still think about a bad soul tie I have been trying to release from a woman, it’s slowly getting better …. God bless

  25. Stacy

    Hello, I have been dealing with so much and could not understand why I did so much for this person, why I allowed this person to control me and he was incarcerated at the time. We had a long history (prior to his incarceration) and we re-connected. Upon his release he mistreated me in the worst of ways, yet I still could not let go. My mind has been tormented, I’ve been BEYOND confused with why, what could I have done different or better, trying to MAKE him see all I’ve done/sacrified wondering HOW/WHY could he treat me so cold. I’ve just been miserable and I have just suffered a tremendous loss in my life and I am hurting. I am praying God to RESTORE my SOUL. God Bless

  26. Dee

    Great article, thank you so much for posting this! I’ve struggled with soul ties since 2009 when I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend (I was 24 believe it or not). He did everything wrong in a relationship u could imagine but I couldn’t break away from him. When I eventually did in 2011, I hopped immediately into a new relationship with a great guy, but because my soul was still tied to the old bf, I couldn’t appreciate the new one. He (the new boyfriend) fell in love with me and even though he was great, I couldn’t fall in love with him and didnt know why…

    God told me to do a fast since 2009 to break those chains and I’ve struggled to complete it ever since… It’s gonna be 4 years since I got that assignment from God and EVERY AREA in my life has been on hold since all because of my disobedience to Him…

    I am trying once again to do this fast and COMPLETE it. It’s hard, but I have to do it b/c I can’t be stuck in this place in my life anymore…Please pray for me…

  27. shantel

    wow TERRY i saw u on TBN on the topic of soul ties it stuck with me all the time thank u so so much so many things are making sense now may God bless u and ur fam

    regards
    shantel from south africa

  28. Tashalane

    I had dated a man off and on for 7 years. He broke up with me one year and I moved on…it was hard but I did it. That same year he came to my house almost in tears saying he knew I was the one for him and wanted to get married and asked me what I thought. The Holy Spirit speak to me at that moment and said “No”…I heard it clearly but I told him “Yes”. Long story short we lived together for 6 months and I broke of the engagement and I left. We were still intimate after I left and I felt so empty but I felt like I needed him, like I had to be around him although I knew it wasn’t right. This year I finally broke all ties with him, I’m not intimate with him, I don’t talk, text, instant message etc. Each day it gets better and coming to this site and reading this message confirmed that my decision was the right decision. I have been blocking my blesses for far too long by staying in that unhealthy place. I still think of him here and there but I know My GOD will see me through this…..HE didn’t bring me this far to leave me.

  29. Tina

    I am entangled in all of the above and would like to justify my husband being incarcerated and unfaithful for many years as ok for me to have a soul tie with a man I am having relations with, this convicted me so bad and I have stepped out of alignment with my assignment…hurt and confused with a stronghold that flesh don’t want to release.

  30. Diane

    I first heard of soul ties through my therapist as I navigate the emotional maze of co-dependency and detaching myself from my adult daughter. Almost all the signposts of an unhealthy soul tie applied to my situation. My adult daughter is in treatment for chemical dependency as well as bipolar disorder. I wish her well, but I’ve finally come to realize that I can only help her through severing soul ties and holding her up to God in prayer.

  31. Laura

    Terri I have been watching you and your Dad for long while now. Your teachings are so awesome. It’s like you look into people’s soul and see the hurts they’ve gone through. And still may be going through. God is using you in a way to bless like no other I’ve heard. I love your ministry. Two of my daughters are going through hard times right now. Both getting divorced from abusive men, but there are children involved too. It’s a big mess. The dads are trying to turn the children against their moms. Calling them names teaching them to disobey and be unruly when they. visit. Please help me pray for them to find peace in their souls and be happy and whole again. And for God to bring the right person into their life who will love,appreciate and respect them. Not be abusive verbally or otherwise. Blessings to you and your family

  32. say

    Thanks for this! It really helps me. God bless! :)

  33. princessolu

    Thanks so for sharing this information. Although I figured out that a bad soul tie has ocurred, reading this information has shed light on what has been revealed to me. What confirmation! I definitely must have missed God, he was a FROG not a Prince…Be blessed!

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